Starting a website was a really big eye opener for me in a lot of ways. First of all, I never really understood the power of social media. It was always just for fun before. Now that I’m trying to use it for a business, I’ve found that I have even more days where I would rather schedule a bikini wax than have to deal with it. There are major pros and cons to being on multiple social media sites whether it’s for fun or work. I wanted to discuss them with you and get your opinions on it.
Holy Fuck Their Life Looks Perfect
If you’re having a bad day then for the love of god don’t go onto any of your social media. Here’s the thing, no one puts horrible shit on there. You’re not going to read about someone’s problems. Ps, you shouldn’t want to. You are going to only learn about the amazing things that are going on in someone’s life. Social media has given us all the opportunity to project a life that’s unattainable. All the good while being allowed to filter out the bad. Instagram is the perfect example of this. You might log on and wonder why three quarters of the people you follow are taking pics with Chanel bags and being fabulous. You don’t see that they could have remortgaged their home to be able to take that picture. Social media is all about perception. Remember that the next time you see something so ridiculously unattainable that you want to pitch your computer across the room. Remember….what someone owns, on social media, doesn’t affect your life. It’s not a competition.
Love, Glove, Dove
Another thing that’s going to be on your newsfeed constantly is how in lurve people are. Let me explain what that word means. Lurve- a love that is overwhelming, overpowering, almighty, and has been around for exactly ten minutes. Nice, right? Maybe I’m jaded but that shit wears off when you’re in an actual relationship. To me that’s when the person you’re dating has seen you at your worst emotionally and physically and has worked through it with you and still stuck around. The worst part about hearing people talk about how amazing their partner is, is that it’s social media. They can write whatever they choose to and put it up there. You have no control over that and you kind of sound like an asshole if you think that you do. Even if you know it’s a lie, even if you know they are blatantly overcompensating for something, as much as you want to write “you threw a glass at him at a restaurant last night”, you can’t. Either learn to love the mushiness of others or back slowly out of the room and don’t return. Remember….how in love someone is, on social media, doesn’t affect you. It’s not a competition.
Hey Bro, How Much Do You Lift?
I appreciate people that try to better themselves. I give credit where credit is due and if you are trying to change yourself and your health in a positive way then keep on rockin it. Receiving five hundred statuses about it a day on my newsfeed though is a little excessive for me. When I feel myself getting wound up though, I ask “are they the problem or is the fact I’m sitting on my ass reading about it and not doing it myself the problem?”. I generally do try to pull a good work out off in a day so if I’m still agitated by the statuses, I have to remove myself from the situation. I know that you don’t need to read about how I “just hit the gym”, BUT if I’m proud of accomplishing it, then I’m going to write it. As should you. Being proud of something you’re doing isn’t a bad thing and celebrating goals is what social media should be used for. Remember….how much someone works out, on social media, doesn’t affect you. It’s not a competition.
How Do I Look?
I hear this one all the time. “How many selfies does she need to fucking take?”. Unfortunately for you, as many as she wants to. This ones a double edged sword. You’re on social media to creep on what other people are doing and to look at their pictures, but feel the need to comment when there are too many pictures being taken. I know. I’ve done it before myself. My thing is, as much as you might hate them, I love a good selfie. I don’t mean excessive nudity or anything. I mean just a pic you took because when you look at it, it makes you feel good. There isn’t anything wrong with that. Uploading 40 of the same shot just at different angles all after one another, well, that just pisses people off. I generally look like a hobo all week long so if I pull myself together and slap on some makeup and do my hair then you’re damn right I’m commemorating it with a selfie. Instagram is where you can run amuck with selfies. It’s a photo app for crying out loud. I find that Facebook is the slippery slope. So much so that if I change my profile pic it’s under the cover of darkness at two in the morning so that no one notices. For that exact reason, I’ve tried to stop the selfie judging. It’s social media. They’re bound to pop up. Remember….how good someone looks, on social media, doesn’t affect you. It’s not a competition.
They Like Me. They Really, Really Like Me………Or Do They
I find that a lot of real life rules don’t apply to social media. You can’t see the eye rolls or dirty looks. You don’t even need to know the person who’s photo you’re complementing. You’re always hiding behind a curtain. You can like statuses and photos of people that you don’t like at all. Why would you want to? Because that’s what you do. Why are they even on your profiles? Because everyone is. It’s just how it works. I notice all the time if someone I know leaves a nice compliment on someone that they can’t stands photo. They also notice when I do it too. I know people that have gotten their feelings hurt because they don’t like someone and one of their friends adds that person to a social media account. Don’t sweat it. It’s about connecting with people. Everyone wants a peek into others lives. Even more so if you don’t like them. It doesn’t make them best friends. It makes them Facebook friends. There is a big difference. Remember….who someone is friends with, on social media, doesn’t affect you. It’s not a competition.
We are all guilty of the same social media judgments. Sometimes I can even get anxiety over it. If you find that it’s putting you in a bad mood, or if it’s affecting you negatively, then take a break. Go outside. Spend a day in the sunshine away from your phone and computer. Keep your phone in your purse though, you never know when you might find the perfect lighting for a good selfie ;).
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